Cause and Effect
People don't seem to realize it, but sometimes being the person who does the (unintentional) hurting hurts as much as the person being hurt. This is, of course, difficult to measure, but that's not to say it isn't true. Sure feels true.
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I guess it's just more difficult for those having to rally and support the hurtee as oppose to the hurter.
I rather prefer to be in the place of the one who hurts another rather than be hurt. I rather deal with guilt than end up on the other side, enduring the pain (which I often seem to be).
It's a mechanism of moving on.
- aliasa
Only if you know the other person is hurt.
The one that hurts another is more worst off because of the guilt that they will always carry. Whereas the one that is the victim has to deal with moving on and having no regrets. Just remember what goes around comes around. Treat others the way you would want to be treated.
I think it completely depends on the person. Caring people tend to dislike hurting people. Assh0les don't care what happens. But even then, hurters can "move on" as much as hurtees. Sometimes everyone just needs to admit they're wrong, learn from their mistakes, and say they'll avoid that whole situation in the future.
Initially, I agree, the hurter will feel the onslaught of guilt but when the hurtee becomes really annoying by complaining that all the hurter does is hurt them then hurting them isn't so bad anymore.
I dunno, I think no matter how annoying the hurtee gets, it's still feels guilty hurting them; after all, hurting them is what caused everything, right?
And in some cases, caring people can slip up and the hurtees will of course consider them assh0les.
What's a good emotional band-aid?
good sex.
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