Pumpkin Eater

A while back, the topic of cheating seemed to be one that sparked discussion from you readers. I thought I'd continue that a little bit more here.

What compels one to cheat? I had listed a few reasons why I think there are no excuses. But what's the other side that is missing? Exactly why might one cheat? Clearly, there must be some reasons, because it still happens.

- You keep the security of a relationship that you love in every way except one. And that one is the thing you seek with your partner in crime/cheating. It might be something like spontaneity, so you may be bored, and this new guy / girl is exciting.

- You could actually be unhappy in the relationship, but unable to end it for fear of hurting the other person, looking like the "bad guy" in it, or for fear of being possibly alone (even though you wouldn't because you have the third party with you).

- Or you could just be prone to a non-committal freedom (in which case, you shouldn't be in a committed relationship to start with) and you're easily swayed with such flings. I know of some people (not friends) who somehow just can't stop cheating, like it's an addiction.

- Maybe you're trying to rack up the highest number in partners or something. Get yourself in the Guinness book of records? Make yourself known notoriously?

Anyway, whatever the reasons, I should note for the record that my stance is that it's not acceptable.