Cheatah

What's cheating? What is the "universal" definition of cheating? Or is there one?

I mean, is it solely dependent on physical intimacy? So is holding hands cheating? Hugging? Kissing? How about phone sex and online sex, or emails of flirty nature? Nothing physical about it there, but does that mean it's not cheating?

The other extreme is that it's really dependent upon emotions, but that doesn't work perfectly either, because it means one would accept the "Honey, it was just raw animal sex!" excuse as justified. Even more complicated is that two people may be in a relationship together and have rather different views on what does and doesn't count as cheating.

I always figured it this way: if you're doing something that you have to hide, or that you know the other person would not like, that's more or less cheating. But then, there's the chance that you're dating a guy who literally doesn't want you to even talk to other guys. So maybe this is really a definition of cheating in this relationship, and maybe (if it seems to schackled) you need to be out of it.

[shrug] I dunno.